Death and Loss

Absence can leave a big dull lump in the middle of our stomach. Death, divorce and even losing a job can make you feel physically sick. A friend of mines dad just died and she asked me to speak at the funeral. I am not certain that I could ever say anything that would take the 'lump' away but in the spirit of life I try to help people celebrate living. In this case it was easy. Her father loved life, enjoyed playing the harmonica and would never put up with getting stuck in the death rut. The lump that never leaves. It really is about where our focus is and how we are changing within. 'Within' is not something that many north americans do very well. Sure some do but the vast majority of north americans live on the outside and become human doings NOT human beings. Death is just a reminder that the time we have should be cherished. That these bodies are only a passing phase. I joked with my friend that we should start a company called 'happy funerals' because that is what they need to be. You can't go backwards. The pain muddies our mental 'waters' and we can't see clearly. Be still. Listen to your life and a miracle will happen.