It's easy to let the world control how we feel. Sometimes we think others can fill our emotional needs, that family can make us worthwhile or that friends are the key to happiness. The trick is where your emotional doorknob is...IF your doorknob is on the outside others can open it when they want to, walk inside and stir up all sorts of emotions. You become trapped in a roller coaster ride of low self esteem and despair. BUT if your emotional doorknob is on the inside you control who gets in.
I had a client once who said 'the check out girl at Walmart ruined my day...I was a mess for hours.' Now that's having your doorknob on the outside. If we build healthy self esteem we allow people in and choose how we feel or respond to the situations that life offers. Then friends, family and complete strangers can enter our lives when we choose to open the door.
Keep track each day of who is controlling your emotions. Slow down, meditate twenty minutes every day and breathe from your belly. Remember that you are a wonderful creation with much to offer this world. Just keep your emotional doorknob inside where you understand how you feel and want to connect with the world.
Peace
Todd
I like to use the analogy of the puppet for control. When we allow others to "make" us angry then we are letting them pull our strings, they are making us dance. When something happens that is upsetting or frustrating we need to recognize that stininging feeling inside and walk away. Cut those strings, don't allow anyone to pull your strings and make you dance. Walk away and feel proud of being in control of you.
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