I've been through it three times and yes having a baby affects your marriage. Perhaps the most powerful reality is that you will lose sleep for the next 20 years. Literally! Other issues tend to occur as well. First, you may find yourself snapping at each other more than usual simply because you are tired, the baby is crying or you are up through the nights. Second, you will have to figure out what 'team parenting' means to you. Who changes baby, who feeds baby, etc. A third stressor is money. You will find that baby takes up quite a few dollars and requires most couples to review their budget. I have found that these three stressors impact parents significantly. If you find the stress is affecting you negatively seek help from a Registered Psychologist and start talking with other parents who have shared your experience.
The hope is that if you work together you will find yourselves growing more closely together than ever before. Watching your children accomplish hundreds of milestones in life is a great way to fall in love all over again! TJS
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