Cognitive Restructuring...it works!!!

Cognitive Restructuring: How to Change Your Thoughts

Begin evaluating your thoughts and fears, and figure out if they are rational or irrational. Ask yourself these questions about your thoughts and fears:

• What is truly the worst possible outcome of this situation?
• Could this really harm me or my family?
• Am I looking at this situation correctly; what proof do I have of my fears?
• Can I really handle this situation even though I doubt myself?
• What can I do to change this situation?

Start by writing your thoughts down on paper, and also note the facts that you know. Reevaluate the facts, compare them with your thoughts and fears, and identify what's rational.

It's possible to successfully change your thinking habits on your own, but not everyone can do it.

"Some people are able to learn different ways of thinking through their good observational skills and processing," says Connolly. "For others, it does not come easily and a good therapist can help." Books on cognitive-restructuring techniques are also available and can be helpful, she adds.

Learn more in Everyday Health's Emotional Health Center.