When Mother’s Day Isn’t Good…
Its mother’s day soon.
They sell a lot of flowers, buffet brunches and hallmark cards. The commercialization never suited me
much. The cliche goes everyday should be
mother’s day or at least you should be thankful you have one. But truth be known all mothers aren’t good;
some are drunks, others just mean and some abandon their kids. So mother’s day may mean something different
to many of you.
For me, well, my mom’s dead.
Five years ago and much too young.
Some days it makes me mad. It
just felt like she gave up on life. My
brother had died four months earlier and she just didn’t recover. She died of a broken heart. So for me mother’s day is a long walk in the
country wandering with memories and wishing for one more chance to cook her
supper and talk about recipes.
On mother’s day if mom was good enjoy the celebration. If mom was bad take time for healing and
gentle kindness. Or if like me your mom
is dead and you miss her… well enjoy a walk and have a chat along the way. –Dr. T.S.
I think the "every day is mother's day" is a very apt and astute way of looking at it, and there's no doubt that what that means varies to such a large degree depending on the relationship a person has/had or wants with their own mother.
ReplyDeleteAlso, in your situation, and having met your mother, who was a genuinely outstanding person from the time I'd known her, spreading out the pain and loss, as well as the good memories over the course of a full year, rather than focusing on a single day sounds like a much less daunting task!
I was saddened to hear of her passing - but it's good to know that her kind spirit lives on in some rather exceptional people.