Codependency???

Yesterday someone asked me the question, "What is codependency?" Simply put it is a modern phrase or pop psychology phrase to refer to someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for persons who depend on him or her. It really means being human!!! We all occasionally care too much for those closest to us and we often find ourselves overwhelmed by their problems. Emotional, financial and even physical difficulties become reasons to overly care and we care because we think we will lose them. The reality is quite different. Often our caring makes their problem worse and only makes us feel better for a short time. The codependent also typically feels that they are in a stronger position to care or that they are healthier than the person who is struggling. Recovery is simple. Pay attention to your 'self.' Understand why you feel the need to care and how much care is appropriate. If you can come to understand your self and understand who you are then you will realize that the only person you can control, help or fix is yourself. The miracle is that when codependents heal themselves those they were trying to help often recover too. If you want to talk about this more call a qualified psychologist in your area and share your story.